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Exploring and discussing a variety of relationship topics and issues for people in all kinds of relationships; including partnerships, family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, roommates and more.

Oct 1, 2019

Maureen McCarthy, an extraordinary woman who lives joyfully despite a two-decade-long migraine and 10% lung capacity because of a rare, genetic lung disease, is the co-director of Center for Collaborative Awareness. Together with her husband, Maureen co-founded a process that helps build and keep sincere and strong relationships. This process, called the Blueprint of We Collaboration Process, is used globally by couples, families, schools, and businesses both large and small.


Although she feels pain 24 hours a day, seven days a week, Maureen is one of the healthiest people in the world as she shifts her mindset about living a healthy and significant life.


Maureen and I discuss the five components that help people build, design, and maintain collaborative relationships. We discuss how the safety brain and connected brain neurocircuitry work in custom-designing your relationships. We also discuss how Maureen applies these principles in her life to manage her pain and live a rich life with extraordinarily healthy relationships with herself, her health, and others.



“People are not the problem in relationships - it’s often the container we put ourselves in that creates the stress in the relationship.” - Maureen McCarthy




This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:


  • What inspired the creation of the Blueprint of We.
  • Why lawyers and other professionals use the Blueprint of We in legal contracts.
  • The significance of knowing interaction styles and warning signs.
  • How to design your relationship in light of your values.
  • The three entities in every relationship.
  • The best way for Maureen to manage her pain.
  • How she uses the stress in her system to get what she desires.
  • How to help bridge relational differences and be open to possibilities and compassion for others.
  • How to shift from the safety brain to the connected brain.
  • How the “flashlight in the dark” and “pinging me” concepts work.
  • What helps you make meaning of the world.
  • How to prevent having automatic, emotional responses and start responding intentionally.
  • When you should deal with the issue at hand.
  • What “healthy” really looks like and why she is one of the healthiest people in the world.
  • How the concept of “Ask for everything, Say your truth” improves your close relationships.
  • How to change your perspective and focus on what you desire instead of merely solving the problem.



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