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Exploring and discussing a variety of relationship topics and issues for people in all kinds of relationships; including partnerships, family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, roommates and more.

Nov 26, 2019

Corey Costanzo is a licensed addiction counselor and somatic therapist who seeks to help people achieve a higher flow in their life experience. Another area of expertise is bodywork, a mix of Esalen Massage, Craniosacral therapy, and Didgeridoo sound vibration healing. A kind-hearted person and good friend of mine, Corey helps the local community improve their lives by offering donation-based Restorative Yoga classes at Asheville Community Yoga and teaching somatic psychology at the Center for Massage. He co-owns Still Point Wellness, Asheville’s premier spa featuring sensory deprivation float tank and world-class Esalen Massage, with his wife, Robin.


In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss emotional self-regulation and how we can bring awareness and mindfulness to respond to our internal experiences. We explain how we can choose to self-regulate instead of allowing ourselves to be swept by emotions and share tools and coping techniques we can use to regulate. We explain how a parent’s ability to regulate their emotions can affect their children’s psychological development. We differentiate feelings from emotions and explain how this distinction can help us manage our emotions. We also draw from our personal experiences to share the steps we took to self-regulate in times of conflict.


“If we know how to self-regulate as a parent, then that’s a form of wisdom we can pass on to our children.” -Corey Costanzo


This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:


  • Corey’s definition of emotional regulation
  • How to access the choice to emotionally self-regulate instead of being swept by emotions
  • Using mindfulness and awareness practices to help emotional self-regulation
  • The biochemistry of emotions and where they are felt
  • How to distinguish feelings from emotions to regulate responses
  • Self-soothing and self-care methods to increase self-awareness
  • The importance of co-regulating a partner’s emotional experiences
  • Why parents should develop emotional regulation skills and how dysregulation can affect childhood development
  • How attachment styles affect confrontation and conflict management in couples

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