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Exploring and discussing a variety of relationship topics and issues for people in all kinds of relationships; including partnerships, family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, roommates and more.

May 14, 2019

Cathy Courtenay is a dating consultant for men. She uses her learnings from the art of circling to provide personal and spiritual guidance to men who want coaching in the dating and relationship world. Her experience with somatic bodywork and dance, combined with her expertise in marketing and parenting, have provided her with a unique set of skills that allow her to process human emotions and experiences, transforming them into valuable lessons for her clients.


Cathy joins me today to discuss vulnerability, presence, authenticity, self-awareness, and other aspects of dating that can help men better understand what women truly want. We discuss her philosophy and approach when it comes to dating and relationships and how our separate professions allow us to gain deeper insight into other people and learn to “fall in love” with their truths. We also share our insights on self-validation, the emotional barriers that prevent men from having meaningful relationships, and the biggest missteps men commit in pursuing and understanding women.


“In terms of masculine and feminine and our roles, we’re in a different paradigm than we were even 10, 15, 20 years ago.” - Cathy Courtenay


This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:


  • How Cathy began her practice as a dating consultant for men.
  • The meaning of the practice of circling and what it entails.
  • Why getting to know somebody beyond the surface is a gift.
  • How Cathy’s experiences with men inspired her to follow this track.
  • The process she follows in dating consultation.
  • The common mistakes men make in dating.
  • The concept of men having to “lead” in dating.
  • Attuning to someone’s frequency, and how it provides a sense of safety.
  • How attraction figures into her line of work and how she deals with the possibility of her clients getting attracted to her because of the attention she gives.
  • How she brings a lot of herself into her work to be able to help her clients.
  • Her experiences growing up in South Africa in the thick of apartheid — and how that shaped her desire to put her energy into fighting injustice and teaching people how to be more open to love.
  • Self-validation and why people are scared to open themselves up and reveal what’s inside.
  • How I teach my clients to deal with anger and shame through self-compassion.
  • The emotional barriers and shortcomings deeply ingrained in men that prevent them from having successful and meaningful relationships with women.
  • The importance of giving space for vulnerability and dealing with pain and suffering without trying to “fix” or change a person.



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