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Exploring and discussing a variety of relationship topics and issues for people in all kinds of relationships; including partnerships, family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, roommates and more.

Sep 3, 2019

My daughter-in-love, Emma Olyff, is in a relationship with my son, Zander. Currently living in the Netherlands, she is attending Maastricht University with Zander, where she is studying psychology. She is also the founder and jewelry designer at Emwa Jewelry, an artisan jewelry company she started from her passion for handmade jewelry.


Today, Emma joins me for a Q & A session about relationships. We discuss the role of guilt when apologizing to others and how to avoid getting pulled in by other people’s emotions to keep your own groundedness. We also discuss why couples should be both friends and lovers and how to make a habit of creating moments that will sustain your relationship.


“We need to have a vision - the vision of repair - because guilt makes us stay in paralyzation.” - Pripo Teplitsky




This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:


  • Two significant parts of an apology that make apologizing easier and more sincere
  • Physical gestures you can do to deal with anxiety
  • How to avoid allowing your guilt to overshadow the empathy you have for your partner
  • How long you should wait before apologizing and handling the issue at hand
  • How to capture the moment-by-moment connections in a long-term relationship
  • The difference between constructive criticism and constructive feedback
  • The ultimate purpose of giving constructive feedback
  • Circumstances where you should learn to get comfortable with the uncomfortable
  • Understanding and performing individual and collective responsibilities in a relationship when dealing with the effects of negative past experiences
  • The best time to bring up and discuss unhealthy patterns in a relationship
  • How to work with each other to learn each other’s triggers
  • How to do the inner work of speaking to your heart and accepting vulnerability to avoid blaming others
  • The significance of celebrating relational wins and improvements
  • How to reinforce positive experiences to pursue more of them



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