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31. Releasing Tension: The Courage to Feel

Mar 19, 2019

Gregg Levoy is a Passionate Living Expert and seminar leader that frequently holds workshops for the business, educational, and governmental as well as faith-based and human-potential industries. He is the author of the bestselling books Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life, with the latter named as one of the "Top 20 Career Publications" by the Workforce Information Group. Additionally, he is a frequent contributing author and blogger at Psychology Today.

 

Gregg joins me today to discuss different ways of releasing the tension when you’re faced with relationship challenges. We explore the significance of acknowledging what we feel and the various manners of expressing our emotions. We discuss the negative impact of self-directed anger, share stories of traumatic experiences we’ve had in our lives, and discuss the strategies we used to ‘get the steam out’ and release the tension. We also share how these methods help put things into perspective and allow us to reconnect with ourselves and our partners as well as explain how giving yourself - and your partner - personal space can positively impact your relationship.

 

“When you’re sick and tired of being under the spell and being caught in your dramas with each other, do something different. And that takes consciousness and cojones.” - Gregg Levoy

 

 

This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:

 

  • The “pillow exercise” and how to use it to express your anger towards others in a beneficial way.
  • Why self-directed anger is one the primary components of depression.
  • Having the courage of “shaking off” trauma and drama.
  • How Gregg and his ex-wife honored the good things they had a week before they separated.
  • The difference between wallowing in your pain and using it as a cathartic release.
  • My experience of working through the traumatic experience of losing a child.
  • Why it’s hard for people to allow themselves to truly connect with their feelings and emotions.
  • The importance of feeding the love and appreciation in your relationships.
  • Giving yourself - and your partner - the space and time to calm down when feelings of tension and anger are high.
  • How separation and space help your relationship thrive.
  • What “a spark needs a gap” means and how it relates to relationships.
  • Why a lot of couples are petrified of having space away from their partner.
  • Why breakthroughs happen when you get in touch with your emotions and allow yourself to cry.
  • Why it’s important to allow people to truly feel their emotions instead of comforting them or trying to “fix” the problem.
  • The story of the girl who was “banished” to her room for crying and showing negative emotions.
  • Having the courage of naming the emotions you feel.
  • How being vulnerable strengthens relationships.
  • Why the greatest human addiction is the addiction to being right and how it impacts your relationships.

 

 

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