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Mar 24, 2020

Commitment: that big ‘c’ word that causes cold feet for some people. In many ways, it’s a projection of future scenarios that a person creates in their mind. Will their partner change? Will they be able to make decisions for themselves? Will they be able to meet new people and do the things that they like? If you’re someone who constantly asks these questions before entering a relationship, you may have a fear of commitment. But whether you have this fear or not, it’s worthwhile to look inward and meditate on the meaning of commitment and your relationship with it.

In today’s episode, I explore the fear of commitment, its causes, and the ways we can overcome it. I share my personal experience with the fear of commitment in my 20s and explain how that eventually led to my current relationship. I reveal how being afraid of boredom, change, and the lack of freedom can make a person not want to commit as well as underscore the importance of shared values in a relationship. I also discuss the vital role that creativity plays in relationships and how we can cultivate the courage to overcome our fear of commitment.


“When we fear commitment, we see a future where we feel trapped. We must focus on the kind of intimacy we want and envision ourselves responding to it.” - Pripo Teplitsky




This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:

  • The meaning of commitment
  • My experience with fear of commitment
  • Why the fear of commitment could be about fear of losing your own freedom
  • The role of authentic communication in a long-term relationship
  • The importance of having shared values with your partner
  • Why seeking perfection from a partner is not attainable
  • The fear of boredom and creating excitement in long term relationships
  • Being in love with an artist and how creativity can keep a relationship alive
  • How fear of change can accompany the fear of commitment
  • Ways to overcome the fear of rejection or approval
  • The signs that tell you when your partner is afraid of commitment
  • Developing fearlessness and overcoming the fear of commitment with courage


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Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk