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Sep 24, 2019

Knowing ourselves well involves understanding ourselves so we can be emotionally available in our relationships. It’s about knowing what triggers us to pull back, stonewall, and protect ourselves from the potential pain that was brought about by our circumstances. Being emotionally available to others allows us to establish honest and healthy relationships, even during conflict.


Today, I share what emotional availability is and the steps you can take to increase your emotional availability with others. I discuss why people are emotionally unavailable in relationships, how to deal with the challenges associated with it, and what you can do to make others feel comfortable with opening up and being emotionally available. I also share how my perspective of the male emotional world has changed since my childhood and how my family and I experienced a deeper level of connectedness, honesty, and love in spite of a family conflict.



“This is one way to transform the world - by being emotionally available.” - Pripo Teplitsky




This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:


  • Why it’s difficult to be available to others and ourselves.
  • How the movie Brian’s Songchanged my view of how men feel.
  • The wrong notion men have about emotions.
  • Effective and ineffective ways to engage men to be emotionally available.
  • How men and women connect and bond differently on an interpersonal level.
  • The role that parents play in their children’s understanding of emotional availability.
  • What parents can do to teach their children emotional availability.
  • How emotionally unavailable people deal with conflict.
  • What it means to “speak your truth” and “find your truth while speaking.”
  • How to “take care of your own cup” so you can be available to somebody else.
  • Why most parents are not emotionally available to their kids.
  • How parents unintentionally teach co-dependence to their children.
  • How my father-in-law’s emotional unavailability affected my wife’s self-esteem and self-worth.
  • Why living a life of constant guardedness is a picture of notliving a full life.
  • The inner work you can do to be more available emotionally.



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